Shiva, the Abhishekam at the Temple is so complicated, is there a simple Abhishekam I can do at home? - Kathy
Om! Om! Om! Yes, there is! It can be as easy as washing a car or polishing boots.
When you love someone, you will love what they use and own. Abhisheka takes this one step further: loving the object because it is loved by the one you love. You try to love it (1) as if you were the one who uses it and owns it (2) because it reminds you of them and (3) because you want what they use and own to be worth loving. Just as a chef would keep their knives sharp because it is useful in their work, but also because they love the knives - so too would the one who loves the chef sharpen the knives.
What you use will wear out from that use. That is its duty, nature, the reason it was made. You will also wear out. Do you know your duty?
Perhaps the one you love owns a vehicle, a car or bicycle. Wash it and wax it, clean it and keep it in good repair. When you do so, understand where the water comes from, and how it was conveyed to your location. Understand when they obtained the vehicle, and from whom, and how and where it was made. Try to make it like new - and you will see that it can never be new again, and how it is used. One day it will wear out from this use. This is also part of its purpose. This is why it was made. This is the nature, the Dharma, the duty of it.
At the same time, remember the one you love, and how they use the vehicle, and that they own the vehicle. Necessity, or joy in the vehicle - it does not matter: they are the same. There is a necessity to joy. Are you taking joy in the cleaning? Gradually, try to love the vehicle for its own sake, cleaning and maintaining it - not to please the one you loved, but because it needs done. You have transformed your love into selfless action - action free of yourself, of even the self of the one you loved. You have seen past, present and future.
Now carry this into your daily life. You use so many things - and share so many things. Do you care for them, as well? You use your body, you use your mind. This is the nature of things. For what purpose are they used?
You can polish boots, sharpen knives. Abhishekam can take many forms. It combines Puja, Homa, Mantra, and Yoga - and many other arts. It is an expression of Dharma, of duty, of the nature of things. This expression is like a language. Now that you can "speak" the Dharma, strive to understand its meaning. Do you now understand who I am, and what I have been telling you?